girlfriends and breaking

[munch]

So I didn't know where else to go with this question but here. I'ma make it short and simple. MY girlfriend seems to get jealous at how much time i spend training (which isnt even a lot.. I skip practice to be with her at least one practice a week (there's 4 spots open around here a week.) She says shit like "do you enjoy doing anything else beside breaking.. and my honest answer is "besides being with you, no.. I my only joy in life is breaking because it effects me in a way nothing else can. Its not just a dance," I tell her. But she doesnt seem to get it and when I get all bent out of shape about going to work she'll ask the same question.

Any bboys out there have girlfriends who get jealous of them going to practice so much? how do you deal with it?

[wedge]

sounds like your girlfriends suck. are you telling me you don't get crazy head before every practice, and sex after every jam? dude... there's other girls out there.

go find a nice popper girl, they are GREAT!

[StyleOverPower]

This may sounds blunt but, it tends to be the truth. If the person you're with can't support you in your passions, your relationship is likely not going to last for a long time, or at least exist in a fashion where both of you are truly happy. There's a give and take in a healthy relationship, and a major part of that is sacrificing somewhat to support your significant other in what they love to do. If someone can't do that small thing for you, they're either too immature to consider what really matters to another person, or just don't really care that much in general, neither of which are particularly conducive to a healthy romantic relationship.

[chiko98]

Look at Machine, Steelo, Lil Rock, and other Bboys you see with their girls beside them and even traveling. They might not be where they're at today if their girl didn't back them all the way. Girls come and go and yours is either gonna wear you down or support you all the way. And trust me they got the stamina to eventually break you down. Say goodbye to the ball and chain or Bboying. Which one will you look back on and regret.....?

[bboymantyz]

Don't let a girl test you in such a way. You are the man, and you control your life. If she is not ok, that you are happy doing your thing, she needs to think one more time. As it was said before, paradoxical thing there would be that girl may be turned of you wouldn't be able to opose her. Sometimes they don't understand themselves. However there is a limit not to cross, or it will stand for ignorance... Don't ever let confuse cats get into your head, I learned it a hard way.

[formburnunit]

The best way to deal with this will more than likely depend on how old you are. If you are still a teenager, you shouldn't worry about getting into any serious relationships at all. Just tell her that you are going to break all the time and if she doesn't want to hook up with you one or two days a week after practice or on a Saturday night then peace--see ya and move on to some new girl who digs you breaking all the time or just get some quick action from whomever--whenever.

If you are in your early twenties and you want to be in a committed relationship, then you need to stand your ground that you need x amount of days a week to devote to breaking and the other days of the week are for her. For example 4 days of practice a week and she gets the other 3 days. Or 3 days of practice a week and you get to go to as many jams as you want (which could end up turning into 4 or 5 days breaking for that week) and the other 4 days are hers. If she ain't down for that then peace move on. You are still young enough to keep partying hard with lots of girls but keep in mind that in a few years your feelings about getting committed may change as well as the time you spend breaking.

Once you get into your late 20's and on into your 30's you gotta face the reality that by this age most women just aren't in love with breaking. The woman who may have loved breaking back in her teens or in her early 20's more than likely won't be in love with it as much as you are by this age so you gotta be willing to meet her halfway if you want to be committed to her.

Now if you are making a career out of breaking then of course you are going to expect that your woman supports that you are devoting a majority of your life to breaking but this response is to everyone else because most bboys end up getting jobs and careers doing other things as they get older and most girls as they get older expect more of a 50/50 balance of time spent with them no matter what the guy likes to do.

No matter how old you are, don't sell yourself short--It's really not that hard to get the best of both worlds once you look at the big picture. I'm just laying down some general guidelines to help those bboys who feel kinda stuck. I'm 37 and I'm a happily married bboy. The only thing that tries to hold me back is my joints getting old so I gotta work hard to take care of myself but other than that I get in plenty of time to enjoy being a bboy.

Peace..........

[Bas]

you said it yourself the thing you love to do is this dance... other then that there is not much you like

so if your partner doesn't understand or respect that then you might be with the wrong partner...


if she wants to spend more time together why not let her come to your practice ..

[bboymokei]

yep dude said it. Dont be tied down soo early in you life. Enjoy it. it goes by very fast! if she really likes you she will support you in what you do! you really cant explain why some one bboys. trying explaining that to a female who has no hip hop back ground will have a hard time understanding if she sees it as being childish or taking time from her. i been with my wife for 7 years. she loves to dance and i love to bboy we have 2 kids and my lil girl loves copying me when i break. any way its your choice and i hope every thing works out!! ill be bboyin till my joints lock up lol then ill be supporting my local jams!! lol

peace/blessings